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Sunday, 11 June 2017

Why States of Continuous Positivity are Unnatural

Being positive all the time is living a false existence. Emotions ebb and flow, they change according to situations, experiences and moods. Few days on planet earth are predictable, the natural world has its hostile elements; volcano’s vent, rain floods, fires rage, drought consumes and storms destroy. Harsh and unpredictable states are true for people as well, making some conversations difficult if equal consideration is not afforded.

Being positive is something to aim for, but if life seems unkind do not put on a happy face to please others. Emotionally intelligent people will soon figure out that the face doesn’t match outgoing words. It takes time to re-emerge after bad experiences, major life changes and weeks of confusion. The smile will come back with a little effort. This is when words of kindness and empathy can be useful.

With so many affirmations on social media, t-shirts, bags, stickers and signs, many feel they should be positive all the time. States of continuous positivity are unnatural to humanity. A teacher might say to a grade prep student who is not behaving, ‘put your happy face on,’ but if the child is not really feeling it how can they? No one should be told what emotions to feel. No one ever said, ‘you are too happy, put your sad face on! Our societies are keyed up to be positive in order to be productive, though no one can stay at this level consistently. Happiness is the objective, providing there is time to work through the situation that caused the downcast emotions.  

Work can be a draining place when your emotional levels are depleted though two or three good co-workers can get you through. They know your generally optomistic sentiments and if you need a day at home. Don’t be brave, get your emotions out! Hiding or storing feelings is not healthy. There is a time for all emotions in the undulating phases of living. Be true to yourself; don’t deny your feelings, stress and anxiety are on the rise.  Everyone feels out of balance from time to time. The path back to positive ground begins with rest and gentle contemplation.

Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).