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Saturday, 30 June 2018

Unhooking the Desire for Perfection



The human mind is littered with ideals of perfection. People push themselves beyond their limits to reach targets that they think are obtainable. Some believe this is expected of them and others have such a driving determination that their goal completely takes over life. Aiming high is a human trait that can get obsessive, but does perfection lead to delay and wasted opportunities? Can perfection miss the mark and create conditions that are not ideal at all?

Perfection is the act of improving something until it is faultless, though everyone has a different idea of what that means to them. Can the great works of humanity be considered perfect, since seemingly untouchable inventions are always being improved on by others over the centuries? Are individuals trying to reach an end stage of a completion that may never arrive? At some point the time wasting has to stop and satisfaction achieved. Obsessions can be dangerous, destructive and detrimental to family relationships. The semi-hermit existence can often restrict the very thing that is meant to be attained. That said amazing milestones have been reached, though other initiatives have detrimental qualities that have caused more harm than good. In the desire for a perfect career, business, invention or scientific discovery, unspoken motives need to be examined.

Passing messages of perfection to children is one of the reasons there is so much depression and anxiety in classrooms and households. Social media and advertising also play their part in the game of perfection. If children are constantly told that they are not good enough, not like the rest, they can improve on almost everything and comparisons are made – how can we expect children to be happy.  Children are living in pressure packed situations trying to keep up with expectations that belong to others. Each child is gifted in their own way, even if that does not fit in with the general expectations of the populace.

Unhooking the desire for perfection is certainly worth considering. Until daily life is examined, few really know what they are chaining themselves too! Obsessions are enjoyable bubbles, just you and your passion, while decay takes hold of other areas of your life. Balance means taking a break and asking how perfect it needs to be! Critical self-judgement is not helpful. Limit your time in creative mode, maybe a few less hours in the workshop will clear your mind and help you make better decisions. You and your ideas are brilliant; but put perfection aside and let creativity and common-sense merge for a healthier life. A couple of little dents, faults and imperfections are part of natural living and what makes every living creature unique! Just be yourself.

Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: @THESAGE00 or  @SACRED_LIVING
Email: sharonbush66@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).

Friday, 8 June 2018

Will Population Limitation be the Standard of Humanities Future


Population growth is one of humanities biggest problems, but few want to talk about it! With 7.6 Billion people on earth in 2018 it is something that should be a major topic when world governments meet and probably is. This is becoming an important conversation as food, water, housing and millions of refugees from war decimated countries flee from unbalanced leadership. Parents who planned to have two or three children in the current era are not to blame; unchecked fertility enforced by religion, culture and primitive governments are the true dictators of misery!

Humanity has destructive footprints on the planet; the balance has been turned in favour of people, at the cost of animals, fish, birds, reptiles, insects, land, sea, sky and water. Human beings know how to take without consequence, but that time is over! This is a new global quickening where the chemical onslaught is lessened, give and take are balanced, two thousand year old manuscripts no long govern fertility, unethical animal reaping ends – could this be the an era where humanity can see itself?

The idea of an endless supply of produce is nearly over. The more informed people are – the more informed people are! Governments are aware that food and water shortages are in the near future unless we limit population growth and repair the environmental damage that reduces fruit, grain and vegetable crops. Dwindling bee populations from chemical damage means less fruit and vegetables, less trees means poor air and water quality and soil erosion, poising earth and water to extract mineral wealth must stop and unethical farming practices show the horror that humans are capable of to gain prosperity! The new normal is on its way, changes are being pushed by the people and some leaders are starting to listen.

Religion has to make concessions to the women of third world countries who are not allowed birth control pills allotting their exhausted bodies to give birth to more than ten children and then watching them die of starvation. What absolute oppression have gods, men and holy men caused to women? Sexually transmitted diseases spread through nations that don’t use condoms spreading HIV/Aids and other transmitted infections. Holy books are governed by men, men in far off places that may not always see the daily lives of struggling families. Give these same men a week with a destitute family scraping for food and fighting off disease and laws begin to change.

Find the balance in daily life, be aware of everything you influence and the chain of ignorance is broken. Love your children, teach them the truth, and decide what information to give them and what can wait till later. Sustain the earth and its stability and humanity survives too!

Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: @THESAGE00 or  @SACRED_LIVING
Email: sharonbush66@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).

Saturday, 12 May 2018

Nurturing Female Rule



Should mothers rule Earth? Would wise, nurturing, intelligent, multi-tasking diplomats bring peaceful results to inter-country communications? Could less aggressive leadership be the answer to the world’s problems? The death and assault of civilians in war ravaged countries is unacceptable in times when war should be in decline, something abhorrent to the thoughts of modern humanity. Have world leaders learned from the misery and suffering of previous battles? Why does it take so long to remove unstable aggressive leaders who rule way past there term of office and rig elections. Countries may go to war to protect the innocent, though there are often hidden motives and deals done. It has been said that the preparation for war boosts economies and innovation, but that is a heavy price to pay for so many deaths. Who gets to decide – who lives and who dies?

Is male leadership along with egocentric behaviour the spark that ignited most historic and current conflicts? Aggressive tones, grand standing, manipulation, blackmail, bullying and unfair trade negotiations seem to be regular features of the boardroom or war room. Domination is an archaic trait that is not aligned with future existence. Greed, idiosyncrasies and the desire to control other countries is the prevailing failure of some leading nations.

Mothers and women with nurturing qualities could be the answer to sensitive global interactions, and sustained peace. Mothers have key emotions that prevent a desire for hate, domination and destruction; their focus on family, community and long-term existence gives them a wider scope for the joyous celebration of all life. The idea of killing to those that have brought life into the world is abhorrent! Life taken by government orders is a travesty to modern times. Protection of children and making sure they make it to adulthood is the prime incentive of women. Those reaching maturity between warring eras are extremely fortunate. Those that do survive the devastation of war are held captive by the horror they have witnessed. Few mothers would send their children to war if they had a choice.

We live on an aware planet; people have access to global information and elevated empowerment. Votes count in the race for improved global understanding and better quality of life. The greater part of leadership should contain compassion, nurturing, education, environment, sustainability, discerning science and economies that plan for the future. Could empowered female rule be the solution? Are mothers more able world governors of planet Earth? Will women in power prevent war and maintain peace, it is a theory that has not been tested – now is the time to test that theory!  

Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage      

Instagram: @THESAGE00 or  @SACRED_LIVING
Email: sharonbush66@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).

Saturday, 14 April 2018

Mind Barriers - Breaking Point



Mind barriers disappear when people have had enough of any given or tiring situation. Suddenly the anger or lethargy is replaced by a glorious freedom that empowers. Anything can be achieved in these moments of high potential. Enough mental harassment and most people will stand up and defend themselves – diplomacy can only go so far when emotions are high and the balance is one-sided.

All human beings are highly emotional unless it is trained out of them in severe circumstances; such as harsh governmental regimes, strict cultural norms and radicalised cults. No one needs this heaviness of mind; it is not a natural state to be in. When the innocent get pushed too far, the breaking point follows and action is the almost unconscious answer. That driving force of defence and empowerment flows with the strength of a river current. There is no way back, forward is the only direction, win or lose.

Calmness is the optimal state to be in, why live life any other way? Productivity and enjoyment of a chosen occupation or pastime creates an ambience of joy. Family life should be happy and inspiring, so individuals can grow and learn about the diverse planet they live on. Yet a misguided few continue to disrupt the flow of daily life. Help is needed so destructive personalities can find the cause of their pain or disconnectedness, everyone deserves options and healing. Those not born into loving families have a difficult path, but this does not excuse acts of continuous disruption.

Sometimes people get themselves in a pattern of dreary or wearisome living, but when the catalyst comes, change is the welcome reward. The new or untried suddenly become allies instead of objects of fear. Mind barriers are learned or self-imposed and can be dismantled when recognised. Life is to be fully lived whether it is difficult or not – there is no easy ride through life, though you can soften the edges with love and wisdom.

Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: @THESAGE00 or  @SACRED_LIVING
Email: sharonbush66@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).   

Thursday, 21 December 2017

The Vivid Rapture of Love


Love is a heightened emotion that is steady and unwavering in its soulful nature. It does not matter if that love is for children, parents, sisters, brothers, aunts, uncles, friends, lovers or even the compassionate care towards strangers. Love is the reason for doing what we do in the life!

Love is almost indescribable in nature and can take over our lives at the summits of joy or depths of despair. It’s almost a swelling of the heart and soul as the mind is rendered mute. Love is an intense emotion as the peaks of birth, growth, mutual love, marriage, success, loss, peace, misfortune, illness, and death visit us all. We are not alone, love is always there in one form all another. Everyone has the right to express love and receive love.

There is something quite mystical about love, when it seems like the fates have aligned on certain occasion that bring bountiful change. Love is a pure emotion that comes with responsibility – loved ones put their faith and trust in you to do what you say and make no false promises. Reliability, dedication and faithfulness are the key pillars of love.

Children with their untainted anything is possible attitude towards life give us the most beautiful example of what love is! A sort of love and freedom combined that swirls in their hearts. They quickly see what is right and wrong in this world and come to simple conclusions that are often correct. Laughter, love, joy and justice are the priorities of children, they want to have fun and they want daily life to be fair and equal.

Offer love when your heart is full, offer help when others need it, notice when something doesn’t seem quite right, be passionate when you believe in something, offer simple kindness to the people you meet, seek the truth when it seems hidden, be part of the vivid rapture of love. Love is what we are here to experience. Love can be shown in so many ways.

Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: THESAGE00 or SACRED_LIVING
Email: the.sage.sb@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).
   

Friday, 24 November 2017

Why Social Change Moves So Slowly

 

Social systems and social laws alter very slowly unless major upheavals push them into public view. One piece of important information may sit quietly for forty years until it is really heard and understood. Developing that belief into law will takes time. Finding general public consensus on new ideas is a lengthy process, even urgent matters are tied up in political paperwork for years.

Humanity has created systems that often do not support the general populous, animals or the environment. Are the few in power becoming more greedy and negative, rather than positive and fair? Not a great deal can be done on a global scale, the expanse between different cultures and countries make progress far-reaching. Countries that are governed by dictatorships pose dangerous threats to communication, amendments and modernisation – this stagnant immovable mass deflects social change. These are strange and unpredictable times as the latest betrayals glare across news screens, though some eventually get due punishment.

Change is for dedicated individuals who usually make it their life’s work to obtain needed alterations to social justice. Nothing happens without serious effort; steadfast beliefs in fairness and equality are monumental. Simple ideas like woman being able to vote came into law in the early twentieth century, yet there are countries where this is still not allowed. In some countries children are free to study and create a future, while others work at physical labour from early childhood. Some can marry for love while others are married to strangers without their consent, or not allowed to marry at all. People kill animals for both sport and food, while many see the unnecessary senselessness of these actions. Violent individuals can lawfully inflict horrendous abuse towards their families in some nations, yet they go to jail or rehabilitation in liberated civilisations. The degradation of the planet is something that concerns all nations and no excuses should be afforded.

Change is only as strong as its people. Remove fear and stand-up for vital change where it is safe to do so. No one should have to die for their beliefs. Dedicated public awareness is the answer to speeding up crucial change. Ambassadors are everyday people that care about the world and happiness in daily life.

Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: THESAGE00 or SACRED_LIVING
Email: the.sage.sb@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).


Saturday, 21 October 2017

Fatherhood, a Century of Change


The changing role of fathers as parents has brought dramatic differences to the family unit with a century. During the difficult war years and great depression men kept their emotions hidden in order to portray certain strengths of character and calm. They were told that men don’t cry even though they had witnesses many horrors and heartaches – their role as head of the household was to be invincible and ever-strong in front of their families. This restrictive rhetoric led many to self-imposed emotional prisons, where escapism often led to substance abuse. This created an invisible wall that partially separated families from really knowing each other at a deeper level. The pressures of fatherhood were demanding as many struggled to find the steady work needed to support large families. People had a standard role of what they should be doing in society whether they liked it or not, though change evolved and some broke through the stereotypes.

The more prosperous 1950’s had a firm structure, though fathers could relax a little. Images of perfect families and fathers playing with their children graced magazine covers, though this wasn’t the case for everyone. Fathers were still restricted from birthing suite or were convinced that this was not their place. The connection between babies and fathers were limited until children were old enough to communicate fully, babies often remained the domain of woman. As women began to enter the workforce, ideas of the standard family changed forever. This was often an era of children being seen, but not heard, until some children rebelled against these sentiments.  

The later years of the twentieth century, especially the radically different 60’s and 70’s gave fathers a natural freedom of expression. This era of freedom had its downside and many children were born outside the family unit, leading to a multitude of forced adoptions, shaming for young adults, and alternative futures for children. Men with families could now speak with their emotional voices without ridicule, as judgement lessened. Men loved their children, but now they could show it. The handshake as an emotional bond between father and son slowly gave way to the embrace. Fathers could march and demonstrate their true beliefs at public forums, building on the way they thought family life should be. Deep meaningful conversations were part of daily life and the bond between father and child was flourishing out loud.

By the twenty first century the father’s role in the household had been dismantled and rebuilt anew, thanks to the work of previous generations of men and women.  Situations had changed; mothers or fathers could stay home and look after their children while the other parent worked – the family unit altered dramatically compared to previous centuries. The softer emotionally intelligent father emerged with a new openness. Tough love scenarios dwindled as gentler approaches to childhood developed. Fathers could speak to their children and value their opinion. The father now becomes, teacher and nurturer from day one, considering the child’s best interest within the family. With love on show he can be straightforward, comical or subtle when speaking with his children. He gives love; he receives love, he is helpful – that is the true spirit of fatherhood.

Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: THESAGE00 or SACRED_LIVING
Email: the.sage.sb@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).