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Saturday, 21 October 2017

Fatherhood, a Century of Change


The changing role of fathers as parents has brought dramatic differences to the family unit with a century. During the difficult war years and great depression men kept their emotions hidden in order to portray certain strengths of character and calm. They were told that men don’t cry even though they had witnesses many horrors and heartaches – their role as head of the household was to be invincible and ever-strong in front of their families. This restrictive rhetoric led many to self-imposed emotional prisons, where escapism often led to substance abuse. This created an invisible wall that partially separated families from really knowing each other at a deeper level. The pressures of fatherhood were demanding as many struggled to find the steady work needed to support large families. People had a standard role of what they should be doing in society whether they liked it or not, though change evolved and some broke through the stereotypes.

The more prosperous 1950’s had a firm structure, though fathers could relax a little. Images of perfect families and fathers playing with their children graced magazine covers, though this wasn’t the case for everyone. Fathers were still restricted from birthing suite or were convinced that this was not their place. The connection between babies and fathers were limited until children were old enough to communicate fully, babies often remained the domain of woman. As women began to enter the workforce, ideas of the standard family changed forever. This was often an era of children being seen, but not heard, until some children rebelled against these sentiments.  

The later years of the twentieth century, especially the radically different 60’s and 70’s gave fathers a natural freedom of expression. This era of freedom had its downside and many children were born outside the family unit, leading to a multitude of forced adoptions, shaming for young adults, and alternative futures for children. Men with families could now speak with their emotional voices without ridicule, as judgement lessened. Men loved their children, but now they could show it. The handshake as an emotional bond between father and son slowly gave way to the embrace. Fathers could march and demonstrate their true beliefs at public forums, building on the way they thought family life should be. Deep meaningful conversations were part of daily life and the bond between father and child was flourishing out loud.

By the twenty first century the father’s role in the household had been dismantled and rebuilt anew, thanks to the work of previous generations of men and women.  Situations had changed; mothers or fathers could stay home and look after their children while the other parent worked – the family unit altered dramatically compared to previous centuries. The softer emotionally intelligent father emerged with a new openness. Tough love scenarios dwindled as gentler approaches to childhood developed. Fathers could speak to their children and value their opinion. The father now becomes, teacher and nurturer from day one, considering the child’s best interest within the family. With love on show he can be straightforward, comical or subtle when speaking with his children. He gives love; he receives love, he is helpful – that is the true spirit of fatherhood.

Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: THESAGE00 or SACRED_LIVING
Email: the.sage.sb@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers). 






Friday, 25 August 2017

Priorities for Living


What are humanities priorities for living and have they changed for better or worse? We live in strange and uncertain times; there is a kind of smouldering hysteria on the world stage as uneducated leaders making questionable decisions. The priorities of politicians are somewhat different to the daily lives of families. Some struggle to find food and shelter, some are managing, while others have an easier existence. Invisible pollution is rife as efforts to contain damaging emissions continue as the clock ticks. Hands are tied and mouths are hushed as protesters are portrayed as radicals – yet, why are desires for earthy longevity and peace such a crime?

Priorities for living are changing, but that depends on your view. If a reasonable reality is what you have, does it need closer inspection or not? Do people have the ability to see the overall picture of humanity or is that not their concern? How far does an individual’s empathy and action extend – to the family, extended family, the community, town, city, state, country, other nations, the planet? Are people able to see through the supplanted normalities that are produced to raise money for corporations? Have they the courage needed to ask questions and do research? Strong people are often out of any zone of comfort, taking risks, because that’s what it takes to be free of mind!

Priorities for daily living often come down to the basics of food, water, shelter, family, clothing, transport, work, creativity, love, and a sense of community, or do they? It seems modern necessities have built skyscrapers on top of these basics needs, creating a sense of greed and entitlement among many. Even housing has become a continuous obsession of extreme nesting, an example of how well someone is excelling in life and career. Children and young adults are often guided towards careers that will make them the most wealth instead of their priority – what they are passionate about! The planet should be a top priority, because none of us can live without it! Food and water shortages in years to come have been talked about for fifty years, but many are oblivious to that science or have higher priorities than that. Disease is a common petulance because our foods have been genetically altered, chemicals have been added and carcinogenic meats degrade people’s health. Yet many believe the happy advertising campaigns that say all is well as happy families smile around the dinner table with some unpalatable food is fine. Awareness is the key to a sustainable present and future. Rethink normality. Rethink your priorities. That’s real love for people and planet!

22-07-2017
Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: THESAGE00 or SACRED_LIVING
Email: the.sage.sb@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).


Sunday, 11 June 2017

Why States of Continuous Positivity are Unnatural


Being positive all the time is living a false existence. Emotions ebb and flow, they change according to situations, experiences and moods. Few days on planet earth are predictable, the natural world has its hostile elements; volcano’s vent, rain floods, fires rage, drought consumes and storms destroy. Harsh and unpredictable states are true for people as well, making some conversations difficult if equal consideration is not afforded.

Being positive is something to aim for, but if life seems unkind do not put on a happy face to please others. Emotionally intelligent people will soon figure out that the face doesn’t match outgoing words. It takes time to re-emerge after bad experiences, major life changes and weeks of confusion. The smile will come back with a little effort. This is when words of kindness and empathy can be useful.

With so many affirmations on social media, t-shirts, bags, stickers and signs, many feel they should be positive all the time. States of continuous positivity are unnatural to humanity. A teacher might say to a grade prep student who is not behaving, ‘put your happy face on,’ but if the child is not really feeling it how can they? No one should be told what emotions to feel. No one ever said, ‘you are too happy, put your sad face on! Our societies are keyed up to be positive in order to be productive, though no one can stay at this level consistently. Happiness is the objective, providing there is time to work through the situation that caused the downcast emotions.  

Work can be a draining place when your emotional levels are depleted though two or three good co-workers can get you through. They know your generally optomistic sentiments and if you need a day at home. Don’t be brave, get your emotions out! Hiding or storing feelings is not healthy. There is a time for all emotions in the undulating phases of living. Be true to yourself; don’t deny your feelings, stress and anxiety are on the rise.  Everyone feels out of balance from time to time. The path back to positive ground begins with rest and gentle contemplation.

Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: THESAGE00 or SACRED_LIVING
Email: the.sage.sb@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).


Sunday, 14 May 2017

The Futurist


The future is a sort of unattainable place, the moment you’re there it becomes the present and shortly after the past. Though people are always in the present, their minds spend a great deal of time speculating about future developments or the ideal life. Time is also spends time sifting through relevant past experiences that benefit the present. Its little wonder people have trouble with concentration and focus.

How will the future look, will it be people friendly and can the natural world sustain growing global communities? It is the job of the futurist to contemplate, calculate and create inspired plans that may become a living reality. The futurist is a visionary with an analytical mind for calculations. These are very different places for the mind to congregate; the creative visionary and mathematical analyst would more often be two distinct people. This combination of traits offers a unique outlook.

The futurist could be a scientist, inventor, creative genius or philosopher who is thinking about the world in terms of longevity, sustainability and planning that makes life easier for people, animals and planet. The futurist may forecast a path of devastating results that can be turned around with serious effort. That said a futurist could create plans to build a sustainable town from the ground up, with no existing structures in place. That could be in a country field, near the coast, on an island or space station orbiting the planet.

The futurist has a mind that has very few restrictions. Everyone has that ability, but many take the standard model of living as something that needs no improvement and therefore accept the limits and boundaries of those beliefs. People hold adoration for the great futurist minds across the centuries, while limiting young minds of the present by ushering them into the careers that bring high financial rewards. Are desires for safety and security dulling the potential of young visionaries? Really listen to the inspired voices of the creatives, listen to your own thoughts without dismissing them instantly, everyone has visions of an enhanced future!

Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: THESAGE00 or SACRED_LIVING
Email: the.sage.sb@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).


Tuesday, 18 April 2017

Is Bullying a Learned Behaviour?


Aggression is an abhorrent behaviour when it is used as a weapon to subdue or control others. Over the centuries many have taught the young to fight, manipulate and steal in order to survive, obtain wealth or gain status. The victims of aggression often found themselves in unwinnable situations and moved away from the hostilities, where possible. When situations became too stifling for communities and words of fairness could not be heard, they banned together against tyrannical groups or individuals and war ensued. Those that are corner are forced to defend themselves.Aggression is an abhorrent behaviour when it is used as a weapon to subdue or control others. 

The history of ancestors at war has bought some eras of peace, but at what cost to human emotional development and empathy for others? Children and teenagers learn from the world around them, they know how to fight, verbally abuse, manipulate via stealth, make fun of others, use online deception and tell half the truth. Are these forms of bulling becoming more acceptable? All of this says people can’t be trusted and to a small extent this is true, so how can individuals and humanity evolve past this point of mistrust? Can people rid themselves of this underlying anger or is it some kind of predatory self-protection method?

Who teaches verbal and physical bullying in the school yard; siblings, parents, friends, social media, family trauma, social problems or innate instincts? What chance do children have to become emotionally intelligent unless parents, teachers and role models show them the way? This means helping them with wise words when they hurt others unconsciously, which many parents and carers do, though some new parenting technique have different views. Rough play seems natural enough for small children, but even then someone is left crying. Personal space and respect seems vital in the schoolyard, yet as children learn language they mimic those around them and spout words they barely understand and hurt others. Children aren’t born aggressive, that is a learned behaviour from outside influences. As children reach school age some are naturally shocked by playground behaviour and what they see in the world. Giving children a happy healthy childhood full of wonder and mystery is vital, but how do parents reconcile that with the harsher realities of life?

In leisure time children, teens and adults watch movies and documentaries about the worst mental and physical damage humanity can muster – entertainment is flooded with the balance of good and evil. Gaming is infused with shooting, killing and maiming the enemy to get points so people can move up the social, economic and egotistical ladder. The daily news shows how aggressive humanity is as a species. Trying to create a civilised population is harder than first thought! There seems to be an underlying aggression in some people that can’t make allowances for the differences of others. Since technology allowed people to see each other in their distinctively advantaged and disadvantaged lives war has continue its damaging path.

Children and young adults are taught to rise to the top in study, work, businesses and sport, but if it’s not sustainable and it causes conflict, jealously, disappointment and outward aggression, what is the point! Maybe it is time to teach children individuality, empathy and balance? Give children a chance to thrive without constant competition! Teach them that they don’t have to prove their worth to friends and family. How can anyone learn in an aggressive childhood environments? Ask why society values its winners over joint efforts? Put love before achievement, let them be themselves. Help them to create lasting friendships. Stamp out bullying; evolve as a species!


Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: THESAGE00 or SACRED_LIVING
Email: the.sage.sb@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers). 

Sunday, 19 March 2017

Why Travel is an Integral Part of Genetic Inheritance


People have been nomadic for reasons of survival since the earliest tribal groupings. This was highly dependent on food, especially the seasons; early inhabitants where well aware when it was time to move on and gather the next natural harvest. The migration trail is full of ancestors who moved because nature had sudden unforgiving shifts which forced people onward. Archaeologists have discovered hundreds of abandoned villages, towns and cities where rivers suddenly changed direction leaving desert environments. Volcanoes are responsible for covering whole cities or leaving them at the bottom of the oceans. Ice ages forced millions to head for warmer climates and the last one was only twenty thousand years ago. When the ice melted land bridges disappeared leaving some people isolated to islands. It’s no wonder people have such a varied genetic heritage.

When people feel the urge to travel it goes much deeper than it seems, an undeniably part of our genetic Inheritance. When people began to settle into small villages they still had to travel, trade, hunt and gather. Today the situation has changed; people work for income and then buy food that is quite close to housing. As a species humanity needs to stretch its muscles like any other animal, but fewer occupations allow for this kind of physical exercise. So exercise is done before or after the workday or on the weekends. Many plan to take holidays in their weeks off work to travel somewhere different and try new things. It’s almost a necessity and inner calling, especially when the seasons change and senses are alert. People are seekers and they desire to know more about the world.

School camps are a part of this early learning experience along with family holidays, wellness retreats, traveling to conferences and journeys to help the less fortunate. Travel is a natural bonding experience with places and people and not quite the struggle it was for those that came before, but they left a legacy so others could enjoy this wondrous and diverse planet!

Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: THESAGE00 or SACRED_LIVING
Email: the.sage.sb@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).


Saturday, 11 March 2017

Does Society Value Older People?


People spend their whole lives learning and experiencing, a literal storehouse of knowledge accumulated in just one being. There are billions of people on Earth all with something to share, but is this being passed on as people get older and does society value older people? The young are quick to think they know it all as they travel to adulthood, but could a bit of advice be helpful along the way? Maybe more people should write personal memoir’s for their own sake and the benefit of present and future generations. No one should pass from this life without leaving some small legacy from their wealth of experience.

For millennia there has been shaman, wise woman, philosophers, priests, oracles and mystics in each village, tribe, mob or settlement. As humanity has expanded the size of its towns to towering cities, has sage advice been lost in the rush? Necessity often means employment is away from parents, grandparents and brothers and sisters. This is made harder if couples where born in different towns, though travelling is certainly quicker than it used be. Having close contact with relatives is vital in times of trial, sorrow or great joy. It is important to value the special people that grace our lives whether they are family or not!

Humanity sometimes finds itself in a position of not valuing older people in the workplace; they find it harder to get work than other age groups, though the totally inexperienced are not far behind. Older people have more knowledge from work and life experience than others and many have embraced the new technologies that all must accept in any workplace. All have something to give; from the youngest to the oldest. Appreciate the wisdom around you, speak courteously to strangers and be patient, you never know what you will discover. Know your small village, even if you live in the city. Be helpful when others need small favours. Do you know your neighbours; are there community events where you are needed regardless of age? Good neighbourhoods depend on the people in them. Find a friend or natural mentor within your family or community. Value the subtle or bold wisdom that is offered to you weather it is useful or not. Make your own decisions, but value the sages, orators and diplomat's in your life!


Sharon D Bush
Writer   Historian   Artisan   Sage     

Instagram: THESAGE00 or SACRED_LIVING
Email: the.sage.sb@gmail.com
Book: The Scrolls of Wisdom, philosophical/spiritual self-help book finished (on the final edit – looking for publishers).